Tell 'Em Maury

What it look like folk? Its the main blogging square back, with a special Fathers Day edition of these here chronicles. How about I been out of work all week with some weird pink eye like infection in both eyes. Aint that about a bitch? I'm somewhat better though. I had a couple anxiety attacks earlier this week worrying about the security of my job. But all in all I feel a lot better. Now, lets get on with this blog.....shall we?!?!?!

"Happy fathers day to all the fathers who deserve it. And also to all the single mothers out there doing their thing". Now for all of you out there with a Facebook page. You have probably seen this post or posts like it every fathers day for the past few years. Allow me to be ther first to say...FUCK YOU to anyone that ever posts some shit like this. As a father not only do I find this insulting, but also irresponsible, and dangerous. Lets be very clear, I am the product of a single mother. I admire her for her strength and perseverance in providing the best life she could for my brother and I. I love her beauty, sensitivity, and yes her sterness(as I needed that a LOT...lol). But never once in my 28 years did I confuse any quality she brought to the table as a substitution for having a father in my life. A MOTHER CANNOT BE A FATHER. Period. Unless bitches are now giving out Y chromosomes its not only physically impossible, it is also just another way for black women(sorry, I don't hear too many white women accepting happy fathers day wishes) to give themselves an extra, and most times unwarranted pat on the back.

Lets examine the statement "happy fathers day to all the fathers who deserve it". What kind of bullshit is that? Who are WE to say what father deserves what? Shouldn't that be up to that mans child/children? Let me put it this way, this will be the second straight fathers day that I will not be seeing my children. No, this time it is not due to the treachery of a bitch. I'm sick and chose to not take the risk of infecting my children. But as I sit here and type this, I am in the midst of a brutally bitter custody battle. One where Bitch Treachery has painted me to not only be an unreliable, but also an uncaring father. Fine all is fair in love and war. She also paints me to be a deadbeat. Okay, cool. But just last year I recieved a card and SEVERAL gifts from her. The card read "even though we are having our differences, you are still a GREAT father to the kids". What a difference a year makes. Or, what a difference a nigga waking up and leaving a sorry, do nothin, bitch makes. Take your pick. But when its all said and done, I don't give a fuck what she, her mama, my mama, or any of you think. My kids love and appreciate me. Though they are in the middle of this bullshit and are hearing an adverse opinion about me from all the crazy people they are around every day, every time I see them they know that daddy cares for them and loves them, and will do anything for them(even be persecuted by their mother and her unscrupulous lawyer).

"To all the single mothers doing their thing". What does that even mean? Feeding, clothing, and generally caring for your kids? Thats what you're supposed to be doing. So, cause a nigga aint around its fully acceptable to throw in the towel and not do shit for your kid? So if you DO pick up the slack, you are all of a sudden doing something special? Yeah....okay. As black people we need to realize that our families have been destroyed by this very ideology. That we all have to be separate. Force the man to leave, let mommy and the kids struggle....That shit has to stop. Every black man that I personally associate with is a damn good father. I know there are millions of more like them...and like me. So take today, to give them props. Women, take pride in knowing that your man is the shit. And if he aint around...so the fuck what. You know in your heart what you're doing.

I'm out